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  • Problems for overcoming, freedom for proving. And as long as we believe in ourselves NOTHING BY CHANCE. - Richard Bach "Nothing by Chance"

>comitted bachelor !!

>Yes I am still a bachelor but I am stuck in a small technically undefined space. So I have taken the freedom of naming myself as a Committed Bachelor.

As far as the ‘The great IndianWedding’ goes, there is enough drama before as there is during and after the marriage. If you are familiar with the process of arranged marriage you will understand what I am talking about. Here is a try, inspired by the back cover of Chetan Bhagat’s ’2 States’

Marriages around the world are simple:

Boy loves girl. Girl loves boy.
They get married.

In India, there are a few more steps:

Boy likes girl, girl likes boy.
Parents ask for horscope.
Horoscope doesnt match.. story ends..

Horoscope matches..Boy talks to girl.
Boy loves girl. Girl loves boy.
Girls parents need to love boy..
Boys parents need to love girl..
Boy and girl allowed to know each other..
All goes Ok, Boy marries girl..

I am stuck somewhere in the middle of the process. Not yet engaged, so still a bachelor. But my world has changed. My closest friends have made it a point to remind me of my impending change in status. The advices are plenty and so are the warnings to mend my ways :)

Of so many small changes that seem to have suddenly creeped in, a few are particularly annoying. The one that tops my list right now is to report whether I have had my meals and what I have had!!!
You are supposed to call when you reach back home!!!
Suddenly a picture of Sai Baba and a special charmlet has appeared in my wallet!!!
The closest of my friends raise their eyebrows when i ask them to plan a trip over the weekend. Shouldn’t you be spending time with your fiance.. Get to know her..
Vodafone is sure happy about the sudden spike in my air time..
Talking to would be relatives has become an important activity now.. After all the girl’s family has to like the boy!!!
Guess what.. last two fridays have been dry days!!!
Oh yes.. you are supposed to remember a whole new set of dates now.. the way she is going I am going to have the whole calendar marked red :)
But all the same, this an welcome change.. and I sure need to some time to come to terms with all these..

>messaging never stops!!

>I was walking up the stairs with a friend and couldn’t help noticing that he was texting away all the while. He did not fit into the stereotype i had in my head. Teenage kids, young college going guys/girls and at the last end of the spectrum, 20 somethings in love!!!

This guy is a proud father of a new born baby, having crossed all the mentioned phases. But he is my colleague and seemed out of place in the formal environment smiling and texting away responses as if he were a love struck college kid.

Well he gave me new perspective… Complexities of a stage in life I am not yet into.

Having courted, and fought against the north and south divide, these two managed to set up their family life in Bangalore. Almost simillar to chetan bhagat’s “2 states” story with the guy being from south and the girl from north. Now they live with guys parents. With the baby around both side in-laws are here and the two love birds are missing their quality time together.
With the kid staying awake most of the night, my friend has to sleep in a separate room so that he can make it to office next morning.

The only thing that comes to their rescue is SMS. Not limited to the sweet nothings that the couple shares but its kind of instant updates on what the baby is doing :)

>Add the Hundredth Monkey

>Well here is how it goes..

… the instantaneous, paranormal spreading of an idea or ability to the remainder of a population once a certain portion of that population has heard of the new idea or learned the new ability.

In the original story, it happened when they added the hundredth monkey to the study group, thus giving rise to “the hundredth monkey effect”.

How did I come to this.. I was wondering why I had added the book “Supernature” to my wishlist. There was very little available about the book but a lot about its author Lyall Watson. Apparent in his book, Lifetide (1979), Watson made what was believed to be the first published use of the term “hundredth monkey”. Here is an excerpt his obituary (!!!) in telegraph…

This phenomenon referred to a sudden spontaneous and mysterious leap of consciousness achieved when an allegedly “critical mass” point is reached. Watson was writing about several studies done in the 1960s by Japanese primatologists of Japanese macaques (Macaca fuscata).

Claiming that the scientists were “reluctant to publish [the whole story] for fear of ridicule”, Watson wrote that he had to “gather the rest of the story from personal anecdotes and bits of folklore among primate researchers, because most of them are still not quite sure what happened”.

Watson’s tale was that an unspecified number of monkeys on the Japanese island of Koshima were washing sweet potatoes in the sea. But the addition of a further monkey – the so-called hundredth – apparently carried the number across some sort of threshold, pushing it through a kind of critical mass, because by evening almost every monkey was doing it. Moreover the habit seems to have jumped natural barriers and to have appeared spontaneously in monkey colonies on other islands and on the mainland.

Wonderful story and I want to believe it. And it has so many implications in the homo sapien world. But before I get into that, let me tell you what makes me want to believe in this theory. I remember a wonderful video of a folk of birds reacting to an predator attack (see sort sol in wiki) and kept wondering at how the decisions are made in such large collection of animals. Of course I would love to believe in my childhood fantasies. That there is always a leader who takes wise decisions as in “the lion king” or “the jungle book”. But if you have ever wondered about decision making in bees, ants or fishes, you would have come across some theory or other about how the Collective Animal Behaviour takes shape. Consider this .. (an excerpt from wiki)

The fish did this by a simple quorum rule such that individuals watched the decisions of others before making their own decisions. This technique generally resulted in the ‘correct’ decision but occasionally cascaded into the ‘incorrect’ decision. In addition, as the group size increased, the fish made more accurate decisions in following the more attractive fish model.Consensus decision-making, a form of collective intelligence, thus effectively uses information from multiple sources to generally reach the correct conclusion.

If you agreed then so far so good, but what about humans.. Well I tend to believe it is not too different. It is said man uses 10% of his brain but sadly the percentage of men who use their brains is much lesser. George Orwell’s “Animal Farm” was not in a fantasy land. Communist USSR and Hitler’s propaganda is not too far off in history to be waived off. People do use their head and make decisions. But the type of things they make decision about varies and open to manipulation. On my own I should hardly be in a position to decide whether India should nuke its irksome neighbour but I do and I believe it is a lot of opinions working uniquely in my head to give a bias. Experiments in social psychology, clearly found out that most people are almost hard wired to take orders, to stick to social norms and follow the ruts laid out in front of them.

There is a lot study on this topic. You may want to have a look at a book called “The Wisdom of Crowds: Why the Many Are Smarter Than the Few and How Collective Wisdom Shapes Business, Economies, Societies and Nations” by James Surowiecki. I am sure many of you have read “Wikinomics” by Don Tapscott. You may want to take look at it again keeping the Hundredth Monkey effect in your mind.

I know of no such studies in organisation behaviour domain. But this certain has its implications especially for the Training and Development functions. Should you find out the critical mass you need for technical skills in your talent pool? There have been so many COEs (Center of Excellence) I have seen over the past few years but a few successful ones have spawned off successful business offerings. Is there a pattern? Should you ensure that there are enough people learning and using the next fad tech world, so that you can expect to reap its benefits for the organisation.

I have seen a good number of quality initiatives. In case of six sigma initiatives, people are trained to be a part of the initiative and awarded belts (green, black and so on..) But is there any thought about how many of my shop floor workers need to be trained and certified.

Ever wondered how may minds must your marketing campaign influence to reach that critical mass…

May be it is the hundredth…

>Oh GOD !!

>Once in a while, I get these mail forwards which I am sure are sent with best intention but I get irritated with the twisted logic they present. Or may be my thoughts are twisted :O

Here is one I got today:


This is one of the best explanations of why God allows pain and suffering ??

A man went to a barbershop to have his hair cut and his beard trimmed.
As the barber began to work, they began to have a good conversation.
They talked about so many things and various subjects.
When they eventually touched on the subject of God, the barber said:
“I don’t believe that God exists.”

“Why do you say that?” asked the customer. “Well, you just have to go out in the street to realize that God doesn’t exist.
Tell me, if God exists, would there be so many sick people?
Would there be abandoned children?

If God existed, there would be neither suffering nor pain.
I can’t imagine a loving God who would allow all of these things.”
The customer thought for a moment, but didn’t respond because he didn’t want to start an argument.
The barber finished his job and the customer left the shop.

Just after he left the barbershop, he saw a man in the street with long, stringy, dirty hair and an untrimmed beard.
He looked dirty and unkempt. The customer turned back and entered the barber shop again and he said to the barber:
“You know what? Barbers do not exist.”
“How can you say that?” asked the surprised barber.
“I am here, and I am a barber. And I just worked on you!”
“No!” the customer exclaimed. “Barbers don’t exist because
if they did, there would be no people with dirty long hair and untrimmed beards, like that man outside.”

“Ah, but barbers DO exist! That’s what happens when people do not come to me.”
“Exactly!” affirmed the customer. “That’s the point! God, too, DOES exist!
That’s what happens when people do not go to Him and don’t look to Him for help.
That’s why there’s so much pain and suffering in the world.”

Here is what it means to me.
There is no benevolent, benign God. If you don’t go to him and ask for help, he simply wont help. Apparently the sick, desperate destitute don’t go to Him for help. Abandoned helpless children must stop crying and pray instead.

He seems to be like me. If you don’t ask for help I won’t. But then even I make an exception with my near and dear ones, whom I love. And all the while I kept thinking “He loves ALL”
!!!!!!

>HappySad

>”Who knows what the tide could bring?”

What was definitely a inspiration today morning, now haunts me. There are some news to which you don’t know how to react. Over time, you build a support structure around you. They become so much a part of your life you don’t realize life could be any other way. Especially friends.

People come and go, and friendship continues to live on. At least with a select few. To be fair, I have been out for the most of the last two years. Money, career or simply wanderlust whatever we may put the reason, Life calls and we have to tag along.

Just the possibility made me think about how I am going to rebuild my support system. Whatever.. Banglore without you will never be the same…

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